Countless individuals globally are grappling with the ramifications of substance abuse. The pain is felt well beyond the lives of the individuals suffering from addiction. The ramifications associated with such self destructive, outwardly devastating conduct, cause immeasurable harm both individually and collectively. Taking into account the rippling negative impact of substance abuse, it becomes apparent the “disease” of alcoholism/addiction adversely affects communities more than any other illness known to humankind. The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous correlates the conduct of those acting out of his or her addiction similar to a tornado devastating all in its path.
“Offering Hope-A Survival Guide for Those Coping with a Loved One’s Addiction “is written for those of us caught in the trail of the devastating storm caused by addiction. It is a common occurrence, in the midst of such turmoil, for loved ones to find themselves completely baffled with how to deal rationally with such an irrational situation. “Offering Hope” elaborates about the destructive patterns associated with addictive behavior. This booklet also offers concise suggestions on how to deal more effectively when a loved one’s addictive behavior has become challenging to cope with, if not unbearable.
For those of us dealing with addictive behavior, it can be a time of utter confusion. The problem is that loved ones have no adequate reference point to develop a compass to help them navigate the treacherous currents created in the wake of addiction. This inability to remain centered when dealing with an addict is a serious problem and is compounded by the fact many addicts are highly intelligent and manipulative individuals. Everyone who has had an opportunity to deal with an addict has been fooled by their craftiness. Their skills at manipulating situations and ability to articulate their cause can have us believing one plus one equals three.
Everyone who has had an opportunity to deal with an addict has been fooled by their craftiness.
Unwittingly, it is common for many of us coping with a loved one’s addiction to make repetitive, increasingly enabling attempts to control the ineffective behavior of addicts. Such vain attempts only contribute to the downward spiral of inwardly and outwardly destructive behavior. Increased amounts of frustration and toxic resentments build up in us whose protectively enabling choices encourage such behavior.
It becomes hard for us to understand what they are doing to their life and the family. The problem here is similar to that of a person who has been raised to be a hard worker and therefore cannot comprehend another’s ability to lounge around for days on end with very little accomplished in the way of setting and accomplishing personal goals. This is one of the reasons it becomes necessary for us to seek guidance from others who are more familiar with the tendencies of addictive behavior. It is important to realize that this is a family disease and therefore the entire family needs help.
Offering Hope” is written with this in mind. According to Dr. William and Carlene Glasser of the William Glasser Institute, “This is one of the most useful books for the loved ones of an alcoholic/addict that we have come across. It is full of much needed information about the way the addictive mind and body function.
It also gives the best advice for how to handle this behavior and keep your own sanity. It is full of what to say and what to do and what not to do for the addicted loved ones but also what to do and not do for yourself. It is simply a great little book that we highly recommend!”
In the words of Allen Berger, Ph.D., Author, Clinical Psychologist and Expert in the Science of Recovery, “If your daughter or son is struggling with addiction then Jim’s pamphlet is for you. I have been helping families with this problem for almost four decades. Families are often left feeling lost and hopeless. They desperately seek a solution but often only have trial and error to aid in their goal of finding a more effective way to deal with their son or daughter’s problem. Rarely are they successful without getting new information.
Eventually the addict becomes a different person, a person that we hardly recognize. But there is hope. You can learn how to better cope with this problem. This is the help Jim provides in his pamphlet. He helps you develop an understanding of addiction, he gives you useful perspectives to help you find your way, and he also offers solid advice and practical suggestions. You owe it to yourself and your family to read this pamphlet. In fact it is a must read.”
Ed Storti, Author, Lecturer and Intervention Specialist, offers the following testimonial, “Jim Coddington is always there for the suffering addict and family members. Jim freely shares his gifts of compassion, kindness and professionalism.”
It is a common occurrence for others to arrive at a place of “enough is enough” long before the individual suffering from addiction, realizes the unmanageability of his or her life. If you have had “enough” and are inspired to seek more effective means of coping with a loved one’s addiction, this booklet is for you.
By Jim Coddington, MSW, RTC, RCAS